Status: beautiful kid, orientation: sapiosexual

I’m gonna define it right away, and avoid seeing you leaving this wonderful blog to go to your favorite search engine: a sapiosexual person is a person who is, basically, sexually attracted by intelligence over… well, everything else.

A person who loves nerds, geeks, and any cultured and brilliant person, whose brain is particularly developed.

This is regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

Male sapiosexuals hetero/homo/bi are crazy nanas or guys with glasses who have a Ph.D., artists, teachers, or researchers.

Sapio-hetero girls fall in love with their lecturer, or with an author of philosophy, even small, even bald.

I think you can see what we are talking about.

A growing trend

Marylin Monroe, herself gifted with an IQ of over 150, was attracted to intelligent men, as evidenced by her love choices. And she’s not the only one who prefers a well-made brain to a well-made body.

The term sapiosexual, on the other hand, has been crafted in recent years, like other new definitions of love and sex – for example polyamory. It allows some people to better explain their personal attractions, which makes them really love someone else.

Because we go beyond the attraction for intelligent people, with whom to have interesting discussions: we are really talking about physical attraction and sexual arousal for people with a high intelligence quotient, with a dense culture.

And for some, it works even if the person really has a thankless physique.

For sapiosexuals, age or physique is less important, if at all.

Sapiosexuals aroused interest when OKCupid, one of the most well-known dating sites in the USA (and now in the world), decided to offer the sapiosexual choice in its preference categories, just like pansexual (attraction to any sex or gender), or asexual (who has no sexual attraction to another or to herself).

OkCupid, a dating app where all bodies, genres, attractions, and personalities are welcome

Because indeed, it raises a new taboo, reveals a new arrival among these attractions that we considered shameful or perverse, out of the norm in any case, and that we chose to hide. Like the one for round people, disabled or older. Yes, some women, and some men like big… heads. The sparklers bulb, the library rats.

On a verbal jousting, an average girl can instantly become beautiful and desirable in my eyes. It transforms her physically.


And sometimes it gives surprising discoveries, in the sense that precisely, they go out of the norm. Clichés, preconceived ideas.

This is how your humble serviteuse found herself one day chatting with a thirty-year-old Canadian ice hockey player built like a demigod, magnificent on his chrome mount, and who only tripes on… women “mastures and with a Master”.

Well that then…

Very quickly, I wondered if he actually had a perverse attraction (or not) for dad-mom games where he wears a diaper while I give him the breast. Everyone does what they like, please, please, but I’m not (so much) my thing. My thing is the guys who are churned up, with a brain and a motorcycle, and who know how to ride me as well as she does.

And then it turns out that no, it’s not plugged regression into early childhood, Kindergarten Lust and that kind of fetishism. No, it’s just that he doesn’t like “decerebrated little girls (…), but rather real women who have lived (especially in bed) and who know what they want in life. And who know, anyway.”

And given the beauty of the beast, after a while, I stopped wondering if his sexual attraction had come from admiration for his math teacher when he was 6 years old.

Where does it come from?

Then after a second moment, since I have a brain that I can’t stop from working, I wondered, anyway.

Because a priori, sapiosexuality does not seem at all consistent with what we know about human sexual attraction. We now know very well, because it has been studied at length since the famous first Kinsey report, that we are animals, and that our sexual attraction is a priori only, totally based on the physical. Broad shoulders, developed breasts, ideal proportions, a pleasant smell for the nostrils of the other … Nothing to do with the extent of our knowledge about religious beliefs in the Ptolemaic period of ancient Egypt(be careful, keep sapiosexuals away, under risk of massive erection!).

And that’s where it got interesting. Because if we think about it a little longer, all these studies that talk about choice of partner for the reproduction of the species show that we seek above all to make strong babies, who will have a better chance of surviving the trials of life. Hence the ancestral attraction of men for “fertile” women, and that of women for “strong” men. We females were looking a priori for a solid dad who will stay a few years with his offspring and their mother to protect them from the hazards and dangers in the world around us. And men, women who would know how to feed their young and who are in full shape (s) to be able to help them live, to grow.

… what if in today’s society, we no longer needed to be muscular, but rather to know how to crack a computer code? Nor to be luscious, but rather well placed in the hierarchy of a company? If, in fact, biological determinism had changed its target, and now favored people who will be able to survive and earn a lot of money, and power, in a technological, sophisticated world, where intellectual intelligence but also social intelligence is so much more important?

Money, power, profession, but also sense of humor, presence, quality of social contributions … Social and cultured animals, (for us) other qualities have become more and more important, as love has replaced the sole interest of creating offspring

Jérémy Patinier

If those who could no longer keep up in the sophistication of our species, were condemned to disappear? If in fact now we bandaged and we wet for whom will allow us to survive the collapses of the twenty-first century, and no longer the eras of caves and saber-toothed tigers?

The ugly have their chance again

The physical criteria then become, logically, less important, in the choice of our breeding partner. And so, on our next one-night stand…

In addition, studies have shown that intelligent men have better quality sperm. Women would insconciously detect this better “potential” and would therefore increasingly choose partners capable of ensuring their offspring. Especially since currently, at the global level, the quality of sperm is deteriorating

Like many things, the criteria change. Girls with glasses and big buttocks may soon be on the front page of all fashion magazines. Because yes, ladies, know that if you complain about the size of your popotin, it is because you are perhaps, without knowing it, an absolute bomb for sapiosexuals.

Scientists at the University of Oxford and Churchill Hospital in the United Kingdom have indeed discovered, thanks to a study carried out on 16000 women, that those with bigger than average buttocks have a higher IQ than others.

Indeed, the fat found in the buttocks and thighs of women causes an excess ofomega 3 production in the body which generates the production of large amounts offatty acids that allow a better development of the brain.

It’s crazy what nature is well made! I often joked that I had a big Q….I! Well, it was really related…

Admire all this intelligence…

There is a dating app entirely reserved for sapiosexuals that is called… Sapio. For the moment, they did not make knots in the brain…

… And you, are you sapiosexual ?

If you are interested in sex – well I mean, if you are interested in other articles on human sexuality, say so also in the comments!

Sources :  Terra Femina / Demotivateur / Elle / The New York Times / Au Féminin / Madame Figaro / AfterBaiz / France Culture / Doctissimo / Nova 

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